At our theatre we have a young players group (8-18yrs), and they are led by an excellent actor who has worked professionally. She instils in them that it's important to listen, to do what the stage manager and crew tell them and to always be quiet when they're not actually performing and are waiting to come on. By the time the end of year (public) performance rolls around they've spent many weeks (often a whole year or more) learning with her, and she has explained to them the whys and wherefores of being in a theatre and on a stage. Having a group leader who is respected by the troupe and who is directing the performance, separate from the stage crew, helps to make things run better.
That's not to say the rehearsals aren't often chaotic and frustrating to begin with, but year after year they get it right on the night, as it were.